Want to know the secret to a lasting marriage amidst Hollywood chaos? Ask Iman.
Philanthropist, businesswoman and former supermodel Iman was featured in the Own Network’s series Oprah: Where Are They Now? Now, know that the interview took place before she lost her husband, David Bowie, in January and her mother, who passed away earlier this month. So while it’s probably tinged with sadness (Iman probably knew her husband was dying), it’s much more in a place of “this is still continuing to exist.” In the interview for Own, Iman speaks about how her 24-year marriage to David lasted and why Paris Hilton is to blame for her leaving the runway. Here’s the part about marriage, the secret of which, according to the model, is timing:
“You have to be at the right time your life that you’re ready for an everlasting relationship, that it becomes a first priority in your life. If your career is important to you, don’t get married and have children, because something will give. I know as women we want to be able to have it all, but we can’t have it all at the same time. So, make your priority of what you want at that time. Sometimes you don’t even have to get married,” she said. “Why do you have to get married?”
In the episode, Iman also discussed how a certain celebrity reaffirmed her decision to retire from modeling 26 years ago. “I was just starting to create Iman Cosmetics, so I wanted to be also taken seriously and not be at fashion shows every day. But what really put the nail there for me was that I read they held a show—an hour—for Paris Hilton. I knew the game had changed. It became where everybody wants to be seen and it’s become a different animal. I mean, when you have D-listers…We’re not talking about Linda Fargo from Bergdorf Goodman. You know, you hold a show for that person because she is the establishment; she is fashion. But, seriously? Paris Hilton?” she said. “No.”
While her advice might seem realistic (harsh, but realistic) to some people, it’s true: life IS about prioritizing. Not sure if she even followed this advice herself, but I love her, and I love her and David, and I’m still super sad she lost her partner. We all are, I think.