Will and Jada admit they are in an open marriage.
I don’t know why, but this totally shocked me. And makes me a little sad, not gonna lie.
‘Wholesome’ Hollywood couple, Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith, have revealed that the secret to the success of their 11 year marriage is that they have an ‘open relationship’. Speaking to Reveal magazine, Will had the following to say:
“Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people.” he says.
“And if it came down to it, then one would say to the other: ‘Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now, I’m not going to if you don’t approve of it’.”
The 39-year-old star explains that the couple’s open policy has been in place from day one of their 10-year marriage.
“In our marriage vows, we didn’t say ‘forsaking all others’. We said ‘you will never hear I did something afterwards’. Because if that happens the relationship is destroyed.”
Other things that Will says are important in his relationship are keeping in shape for his “little firecracker” Jada, the “look in her eyes”, and communication.
“And lots of sex makes for a good marriage too!”
July 14th, 2008 at 11:34 am
He could have lied, I guess that would be worse?
But this is really gross. Dollars to donuts that later he will say he was mis-understood.
July 14th, 2008 at 11:51 am
I think it’s a healthy, honest way to view marriage. You never know what will happen over the years, but as long as trust and honesty remains intact, you’re golden. I think this is a healthy view, and I don’t see anything wrong with it.
July 14th, 2008 at 12:47 pm
That makes me sad too.
July 14th, 2008 at 1:18 pm
How gross. If you can’t be monogamous, why even get married in the first place? What kind of an example are they for their children? “You wanna have sex with someone else, honey? Why not, at least you asked me first and let me know! You’re the best!”
July 14th, 2008 at 1:59 pm
This is really old news. Will and Jada let this cat out of the bag years ago and Will went on to say that they even ask each other’s permission before the sleep with other people. I guess it just came up again now because of how he and Charlize Theron were all over each other on the red carpet and a few eye brows were raised at how flagrant the behavior was.
July 14th, 2008 at 2:08 pm
It’s bizarre!
July 14th, 2008 at 2:14 pm
Why on earth does this make you people sad? This is not only natural, its intelligent. My bet is they will have a much longer and more satisfying relationship than people who place themselves under unnecessary tension due to unrealistic expectations about human behavior.
July 14th, 2008 at 3:00 pm
Not surprised…ever since they married, word around the campfire has been they both switch hit for different teams if you know what I mean. How can they be angry with each other for that? Just a whole mess of cleaning carpets for J and BaseOnBalls for W. Six degrees sounds pretty kinky now, don’t it?
July 14th, 2008 at 3:02 pm
I think that if you want to be monogomous, then get married. If you can’t handle being with one person for the rest of your life, you have no business being married and bringing children into the world.
July 14th, 2008 at 3:15 pm
I don’t think they’ve had other sexual partners yet because he said “If it came down to it”…so they may not have really acted upon that open relationship deal as yet.
July 14th, 2008 at 3:39 pm
There is no species on this earth that are able to maintain monogamy as a natural instinct for extended periods of time. Human attempts have been futile; even as sophisticated animals, they have a very difficult time saying no. There is much credit in trying and those that are able to be successful AND happy, Kudos! Will and Jada seem to understand that felxibilty breeds happiness and their marriage is therefore fulfilling.
July 14th, 2008 at 6:46 pm
I bet they’ll divorce within the year……wasn’t he married to his ’soulmate’ Cheri before? ha ha, funny how you can have so many soulmates in one lifetime…
July 14th, 2008 at 6:48 pm
All this photo is lovely of them. I have heard this news before-nothing new here-and for some people this works-to know that they don’t have to hide anything from their spouse..It is almost like taking the thrill out of it wouldn’t you think? Don’t get me wrong I am all for monogamy, I have been with my HS Sweetheart for 13 years now and married for 11..I am just saying for some it works..others not so much-and another thing..what is to be said about 3somes?
July 14th, 2008 at 8:09 pm
That doesn’t mean they have an open marriage. It merely means that, should it come down to it, they’re going to be open about their desires.
“There is no species on this earth that are able to maintain monogamy as a natural instinct for extended periods of time.”
Most species of bird are monogamous (at least through a breeding season), as are some rodents, foxes, etc.
July 15th, 2008 at 12:40 am
Why do these types even marry in the first place?
pffft
July 15th, 2008 at 1:32 am
you know, as long as they’re happy with their decisions, we as outsiders can just piss off really. I dun see a point to judge so long as it keeps the couple together and happy.
July 15th, 2008 at 7:34 am
There are species that remain monagamous. Birds such as swans and pigeons come to mind, some waste away after loosing their mate.
July 15th, 2008 at 8:11 am
I am also a proponent for monogamy, so long as one can remain fulfilled and happy. As for birds and other animal species, they are able to be monogamous “only through the breeding season,” as you smartly said. Nature intends us to be polygamous, at least men, unfortunately, and mate with many people to maximize our evolutionary success and spread the seed more efficiently, so to speak. Lifetime monogamy is a religious-inspired human invention, and is often unsuccessful. But for people who can be happy with one mate, I hope to be one of them, god bless.
July 15th, 2008 at 8:12 am
Whatever works for them.
July 15th, 2008 at 8:14 am
I’m not surprised at all. And, I see no reason to be “sad” about this news. If this works for the Smiths, then who cares? I’m with the group that says that this type of honesty is the healthiest thing around. If people want to stay monogamous, and that works in their relationship, then great. If people want to be “open” then they should go for it. Let’s be honest; there are alot of things that happen behind closed doors in a marriage that would probably weird out some people–doesn’t make them wrong–just makes the different.
July 15th, 2008 at 8:14 am
And also, love within marriage is a relatively recent western invention. As you know, marriage was formerly for children and status, dowry, etc…. With love as the cornerstone for marriage these days, and monogamy as a consequent requirements, that is where the difficulties lay.
July 15th, 2008 at 8:22 am
whatever happened to Adultry, or is that part of the ‘religion’ they belong to. They should be ashamed, shame, shame, most of these Hollywood types suck.
After all, thats all actors do for a living is LIE.
I think I need to read my Bible more get this filth out
of my mind. And for all of your who think I am a goody-goody
good for you.
July 15th, 2008 at 8:38 am
who cares about these 2?? Bueller…anyone??!
July 15th, 2008 at 9:14 am
It’s probably just an open marriage because they are both closet homos who wanted movie roles and kids. It wouldn’t work any other way.
July 15th, 2008 at 10:31 am
i think it’s an enlightened view of things, and maybe something they don’t even act on. when practiced by caring, thoughtful couples who respect each other, swinging can be a good way to deepen the relationship.
July 15th, 2008 at 10:55 am
I think that this goes totally against what marriage was intended for. Anybody can reproduce and have a family. But marriage is all about the commitment to one another. I’m sorry but if your not faithful/manogamous than out goes the trust and stablilty feeling. Even if you tell your partner about the trist. Its devestating and sickning and I do believe that braging about Wills Open marriage will not only backfire for his career but eventually his kids will read this stuff too… So Sad and SICK!
July 15th, 2008 at 11:15 am
I must confess I find this unsettling.
However, this is their marriage, and they could conduct it any way they please, as long as they’re happy. With that said, I think they may have unconditional love for each other. That’s positive.
July 15th, 2008 at 2:45 pm
Yes I’ve heard this before as well. I wouldn’t say its natural for everybody however they have made the decision and choice to have an open marriage together and they set their ground rules, and it has worked for them for 11-yrs - you can’t knock them for that. Hopefully it will continue that way for them. Honesty … such a rare commodity in Hollywood!!
July 16th, 2008 at 12:06 am
I find this unusual and wrong, yet intelligant. Although I think they should do whatever they are most comfortable with as long as they are still honest with each other than it doesn’t really matter. Nevertheless as long as they are happy and not affecting their children they’ll be ok.
July 16th, 2008 at 12:20 pm
Doesn’t surprise me. Will is Tom Criuse’s bitch!!!
July 16th, 2008 at 6:49 pm
Oh grow up, people! These are narcissistic movie stars who get paid to stare at themselves in the mirror every day, and the men wear as much makeup as the women. Look at this photograph, the “flawless” white clothing, Jada’s leg carefully placed about Will’s “love zone”, and the artfully placed hand positions. ROTFLMAO!
These 2 have publicly discussed the open marriage thing when they both wanted to sleep with Eva Mendes when she was working with Will on some movie, and he and Jada were both drooling over her and saying how “Nobody can say Eva’s not an attractive woman…” They said they called other long-married couples to ask how to deal with the problem of being attracted to super hot movie stars that they get to kiss and have fake sex with on the set.
They get married to bolster their egos. Do these deep soulmates ever marry someone they don’t look good with in a photo shoot? I don’t think so.
And of course, genetically speaking, it makes a better chance to have kids that can start earning as soon as they can toddle.
July 17th, 2008 at 8:44 am
I have to say, I find this very wrong, and goes against what marriage is all about.
God inteded matrimony to be about commitment to that one special person, who you really love, who you are to spend your life with. I mean, if you’re not ready for commitment, then don’t get married! It’s as simple as that, really.
Ever heard of the Ten Commandments?
Especially Commandment Number Six?
“You shall not commit adultery.”
What is up with all you people?
This is clearly shameful, and I have to say I am shocked that Will Smith, who is one of my favorite actors from his series The Fresh Prince, would actually do this.
And what’s more, his wife does, too.
Not only do I find this shocking, unsettling, sad, I find this disgusting.
July 17th, 2008 at 12:20 pm
At least they are honest. Being with the same person gets old. You only live for a short time. Enjoy it. As long as they both agree to it, then why not?
July 18th, 2008 at 6:21 am
eew this makes me sad too.
I have never seen a marriage work out in real life and I used to admire them for being together for so long.
There goes that! I could NOT stay with a guy who slept with other women…imagine the stds! yuck!
July 20th, 2008 at 4:37 am
THIS IS NASSS-T
ARE THEY GAY??????? I’M SO DISGUSTED. HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR YOUR CHILDREN AND FAMILY. IS THIS A MARRIAGE? MONEY IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL……… SHAME SHAME SHAME
NASSSSSSSSSS-T
July 20th, 2008 at 5:54 am
Yeah this definitely goes against what God intended for man. One man to woman, and one woman to one man. I agree with most of you, if you’re not going to be faithful, then marriage is not for you. It is sad and disgusting b/c these two are all over the TV, and he has been somewhat of a role model to young kids all over. It’s shameful that they would put this out there like their kids won’t read it. It’s embarrassing. Egos play a big part in it I believe. Eva Mendes is gorgeous no doubt, but c’mon you two…YOU’RE MARRIED. For better or for worse, til death do you part. I’ll def pray for them. It’s perverse what America is coming to. God Bless.
July 20th, 2008 at 6:09 am
Hmmm, since I’m a big ol’ lezzy and I want to have kids some days, maybe I’ll find a “Will.” Then I can play house and still do my thing… Not bad J and W, not bad at all…
July 21st, 2008 at 10:02 pm
Alec Says:
July 14th, 2008 at 2:14 pm
Why on earth does this make you people sad? This is not only natural, its intelligent. My bet is they will have a much longer and more satisfying relationship than people who place themselves under unnecessary tension due to unrealistic expectations about human behavior.
I didn’t read past this b/c I got so annoyed!! Seriously what does the word “marriage” mean??This is so contradictory. If you have the opinion of alec, then don’t get married!!
July 21st, 2008 at 10:16 pm
Let me explain further…”open marriage” is an oxymoron, like “smart ‘Alec’” is an oxymoron. Why get married if you can’t commit. The commitment is the point (of marriage). A marriage without a commitment is like a song without a melody…it’s just noise.
July 22nd, 2008 at 9:18 am
I also heard that they both swing the other way and enjoy group activties with other celebs, one of them is Will Smith’s best mate who has come out of the closet and left his celeb wife.
July 22nd, 2008 at 12:55 pm
Doesn’t surprise me. Will is now Tom Cruise’s bitch!!!
July 29th, 2008 at 8:24 am
My son told me this, and I told him he must have misheard the radio DJ. I too am sad about it. Now I wonder about all the other couples they hang out with. Maybe THIS is the reason thaty are an A list couple, and not because they are talented and successful, and respected because of their long mariage.
July 29th, 2008 at 4:45 pm
I remember jada when she was a bisexual thug in redneck town south baltimore,md. Money has not changed her obviously just cleaned her up a bit. She also is known for being one of those actors who did sleep to the top.
August 2nd, 2008 at 7:58 am
reading the responses here is funny to me — what a bunch of narrow minded judgmental folks!
monogamy is not a biological issue, it’s not a global standard — it’s cultural (religious primarily which, sorry folks there’s more than one VIEW of the RIGHT thing to do) and as evidenced by all the “cheating”, ain’t working out so well.
Truth, loyalty and good communication go a lot further to keeping a couple together than only having sex with each other. Women are hurt by the betrayal of the heart more than the fact that their man pounded away on someone. Let’s face it for most of the guys out there — sex isn’t some romantic, passionate love fest — it’s a biological release — it feels good. Is that what we base our life long relationships on? I should hope it would be based on something we have more control over.
I’ve gone way shorthand here and skipped over a lot, but you get the sentiment.
August 9th, 2008 at 2:08 pm
I think iits great that they can be so open honest keep it real with each other and still keep such a strong together marriage after all these years.
August 9th, 2008 at 2:21 pm
I believe that the concept of managomy was useful in barbarian times when there were no laws that would prevent the strongest of men from having sex with any woman they wanted; sort of like the way the male lion is able to take over a female pride through a dual with another male lion. Today, if a man forces himself on women it is called rape. However, this doesn’t mean that women and men throughout history haven’t always wanted to be with multiple sex partners.
February 21st, 2009 at 6:50 am
Thank you for your help!
February 22nd, 2009 at 6:55 pm
It is so easy to be judgemental about someone else’s life, but when was the last time you really took a look at your own. I am sure that all of you who responded negatively, does not have a picture perfect lifestyle yourself. Pray for the couple and allow God to work through this time with them. You don’t know how God is going to use them, but I know that God’s grace is sufficient and mercy shall follow them all the days’ of their lives. At least they are in agreement and not dishonest with themselves. How many of you are faithful even in your thoughts.