Gwyneth Paltrow knows that in Hollywood, relationships don’t always last.

“A long-term relationship between two people is an ever-evolving organism,” she writes in her GOOP newsletter on Thursday. “Some stay the course, some fall, all stumble.”

The actress — who was engaged to Brad Pitt and dated Ben Affleck before marrying her husband of five years, rocker Chris Martin — then says she “asked a few very wise women, most of whom are in varying forms of longtime partnerships, for their insights.”

One expert Paltrow sought for tips? Monica Berg, a spiritual teacher and creative director at L.A.’s Kabbalah Center, of which the 36-year-old star is a follower.

“There are no stable marriages. There may be happy ones, but not stable ones,” Berg explains. “Either we are growing forward or falling backwards. This is true in all areas of our life … which is why I believe nurturing relationships is so important. We owe it to ourselves and those we love not to settle for mediocrity in any way, and instead to nurture and allow our relationships to become the source of joy, support and love that they were intended to be.”

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In her latest GOOP newsletter, she reveals that “back in the day, I had a ‘frenemy’ who, as it turned out, was pretty hell-bent on taking me down.”

“This person really did what they could to hurt me. I was deeply upset, I was angry, I was all of those things you feel when you find out that someone you thought you liked was venomous and dangerous. I restrained myself from fighting back. I tried to take the high road,” she continues.

“But one day I heard that something unfortunate and humiliating had happened to this person,” writes Paltrow. “My reaction was deep relief and…happiness. There went the high road.”

Justjared suggests she could be referring to Winona Ryder, who was arrested in 2001 for shoplifting an estimated $4,760 worth of clothes from Saks Fifth Avenue in Beverly Hills.

Paltrow signs off by asking, “So, why does it feel so good to hear something bad about someone you don’t like? Or someone you DO like? Or someone you don’t KNOW?”

So she asked a tabloid newspaper editor “why all of the stories about a famous British couple had a negative bent.”

“He said that when the headline was positive, the paper didn’t sell,” Paltrow continues. “Why is that? What’s wrong with us? I asked the sages to shed a little light. Here’s to washing our mouths out with soap… Love, Gwyneth.”

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