Shayne Lamas is opening up for the first time, following the tragic loss of her son at 20 weeks pregnant.
“My son had to be removed to save my life,” Shayne tells In Touch, whose “healthy” 20-week-old son was growing outside of her uterus, attached to her bladder. After her placenta was punctured by the baby, an emergency hysterectomy removed him, Shayne’s uterus and half her bladder. “The doctors hadn’t seen anything like it.”
Recalling the moment doctors told her the news, Shayne tells In Touch: “I screamed from the top of my lungs. You never think something like this will happen to you. I felt like someone hit me again and again and again.”
As Shayne fought for her life in an induced coma, her husband Nik was left frightened and grieving alone. “The doctors told me, ‘The baby is killing her. We have to remove the fetus or Shayne is going to die,’” recounts her husband, TheDirty.com founder Nik Richie, 35. “It wasn’t a miscarriage. It was them having to kill our child to save my wife.”
“She died on the table and they brought her back. The doctors said it was an absolute miracle,” says Nik. “There were two minutes where she lost oxygen to her brain. They said she could have brain damage. It was a nightmare.”
Now recuperating at her Orange County, Calif., home, Shayne is haunted by thoughts of her baby. One hopeful note in an otherwise unthinkable tragedy: Doctors were able to save Shayne’s ovaries despite the hysterectomy to remove her uterus. “I’ll be able to give my eggs to a surrogate,” she says. “I absolutely will have more kids.”
I suffered two miscarriages back-to-back in 2005, and that pain was horrific. Luckily, I was in my first trimester, and not further along, because I’m not sure I would have survived such a loss. I can’t imagine the pain and heartache of losing a child after 20 weeks, or even further along. To see the baby you were losing would be indescribable.
I think it’s even more tragic to read that Shayne wasn’t actually having a miscarriage, the baby was doing just fine (health-wise). So sad the position the family was put in, and the tragic outcome.