Yesterday, Jennifer Aniston wrote a piece for The Huffington Post Blog, and it really gets down and dirty about the effect media attention and societal expectation has had on her. She basically says she’s NOT pregnant, and for everyone to get off of her back along with the back of every other woman in the world, because society is dictating unhealthy standards for women. It’s pretty great- and pretty angry- and I feel like definitely shows the strain of being a woman in the public eye. The full piece is HERE, but here are the highlights:
I used to tell myself that tabloids were like comic books, not to be taken seriously, just a soap opera for people to follow when they need a distraction. But I really canÃ¢â¬â¢t tell myself that anymore because the reality is the stalking and objectification IÃ¢â¬â¢ve experienced first-hand, going on decades now, reflects the warped way we calculateÃÂ a womanÃ¢â¬â¢s worth.
The sheer amount of resources being spent right now by press trying to simply uncover whether or not I am pregnant (for the bajillionth time… but whoÃ¢â¬â¢s counting) points to the perpetuation of this notion that women are somehow incomplete, unsuccessful, or unhappy if theyÃ¢â¬â¢re not married with children.
HereÃ¢â¬â¢s where I come out on this topic: we are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone. LetÃ¢â¬â¢s make that decision for ourselves and for the young women in this world who look to us as examples. LetÃ¢â¬â¢s make that decision consciously, outside of the tabloid noise. We donÃ¢â¬â¢t need to be married or mothers to be complete. We get to determine our own Ã¢â¬Åhappily ever afterÃ¢â¬Â for ourselves.
Yes, I may become a mother some day, and since IÃ¢â¬â¢m laying it all out there, if I ever do, I will be the first to let you know. But IÃ¢â¬â¢m not in pursuit of motherhood because I feel incomplete in some way, as our celebrity news culture would lead us all to believe. I resent being made to feel Ã¢â¬Åless thanÃ¢â¬Â because my body is changing and/or I had a burger for lunch and was photographed from a weird angle and therefore deemed one of two things: Ã¢â¬ÅpregnantÃ¢â¬Â or Ã¢â¬Åfat.Ã¢â¬Â Not to mention the painful awkwardness that comes with being congratulated by friends, coworkers and strangers alike on oneÃ¢â¬â¢s fictional pregnancy (often a dozen times in a single day).
(Via Huffington Post)
I dig Jennfier’s words. For someone who has fought to fit into the standards that she’s criticized for so long, I’m sure it’s particularly resonant for her. And that’s kind of the point. I think women who are aging out of media standards of “attractiveness” have a lot more to think about and become much better people once they’re kind of freed from trying to be some kind of ideal. Or not- just a theory. But I’m glad Jen’s thought about it and I’m glad she spoke out.
What do YOU think of her piece?