This is gonna upset some people!
I like Salma Hayek well enough, and I think her interviews are at least somewhat interesting and politically progressive- she’s all over immigration, women’s rights and women in Hollywood, even though her acting work hasn’t been a thing in a while. Now, though, Salma is covering the new issue of Red and she talks a lot about her marriage to Francois-Henri Pinault, a billionare. So you know, while she talks about the “challenges” of juggling a career, motherhood and her wifely-ness, it’s like, okay, pour enough money into things and they aren’t as stressful. Here are some highlights from Red:
Sex with her husband: Ã¢â¬ÅSex is not the key to a happy marriage, but itÃ¢â¬â¢s a side effect. Although not every day! If itÃ¢â¬â¢s every day then it loses its charm. ItÃ¢â¬â¢s so important to maintain your chemistry. You have to continue to laugh, continue to explore, continue to have fun with each other, continue to have romance.Ã¢â¬Â
Her biggest accomplishment: Ã¢â¬ÅA good marriage, full of love, is my biggest accomplishment. Home is where my husband is. He is home. Everything outside of the family nucleus is an adventure that youÃ¢â¬â¢re living together.Ã¢â¬Â
Feeling sexy even when youÃ¢â¬â¢re insecure: Ã¢â¬ÅEven though I struggle every moment with my own judgment of my body, IÃ¢â¬â¢m in touch with myself. I try to be really aware of every muscle. It is sexy. Sexuality, what other people see in you, is enjoying your body. Involve your senses in your life, and you will become sexy. Dance, and not to look good. If you dance terribly, still dance. It might in the moment not look sexy, but this interaction with life makes you sexy. And even if youÃ¢â¬â¢re on a diet, enjoy your foodÃ¢â¬âplease! ItÃ¢â¬â¢s a very Latin point of view.Ã¢â¬Â
Her miracle child: Ã¢â¬ÅI had a child late in lifeÃ¢â¬Â¦IÃ¢â¬â¢ve had that yearning, that longing, and that painÃ¢â¬Â¦I always wanted to have a lot of children, and I was not able to. My body, as a miracle, had one. The huge blessing IÃ¢â¬â¢ve had is that my husband has three other children. So I have four. And they are all so different.Ã¢â¬Â
Being engaged with 8-year-old Valentina: Ã¢â¬ÅI try to be with Valentina as much as possible, even when IÃ¢â¬â¢m working. She was with me on the cover shoot and she felt like a participantÃ¢â¬âshe wasnÃ¢â¬â¢t just sitting there on the iPad. This is so important. You have to drag children into participating in lifeÃ¢â¬Â¦It takes a lot of work and mummies are very tired because most of us work and life is exhausting, especially if you are an older mom like me, but you have to make the effort. And if you have a smart child, itÃ¢â¬â¢s harder. Now itÃ¢â¬â¢s so easy to just entertain them (with a screen), and you donÃ¢â¬â¢t have to go through the complaining for an hour about dragging them places. Drag them, and make them a part of your life. ItÃ¢â¬â¢s about the human connection, and the things they can learn from participating in life. Otherwise, isolation starts to happen.Ã¢â¬Â
(Red via E! News)
I love how she talks about the struggles of being an “older mom.” That feels really real to me. In general, it’s interesting to get an intimate view into her marriage and what she finds important…family and her very, very rich husband.