Fellow talk show host, Bethenny Frankel makes an appearance on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show” on Wednesday, January 9th. Bethenny opens up to Ellen about her divorce. Plus, Bethenny confirms her talk show will be taped in New York this Fall.
Bethenny on her divorce…
Ellen: As I can see you are already getting emotional. You could of canceled easily. You were booked for this show and you could of easily cancelled. You said, no I want to be here and it’s hard for anyone going through a divorce but especially people… these are just some of the magazine (holds up a stack of magazines) that you’re on the cover of and that’s got to hurt like hell to have to deal with that…
Bethenny: It’s difficult. Well, first of all, yeah. Do I want to be doing this exact thing right now? No, but I can’t just only be on reality TV and show everything when it’s fairy princess, fairytale and then not take my hits when I have to. I’ve kind of had the best worst year ever. So I have to you know, it’s the highs and the lows. Does this especially bother me? (the magazines) No, but dealing with that plus personal stuff at the same time is very surreal thing. Just going through something personal you have so many different emotions and I feel like a bit of a disappointment to all of you. And, I feel like a failure.
Ellen: You are not a disappointment. You are not a failure. You are not.
Bethenny: …I feel like a failure. I really put it out there. I wanted the fairytale. I thought I had it. And Bryn is my fairytale…I get letters…So many people have been so supportive and some people are judgmental and I really understand. But I also get letters from people saying, now I don’t believe in love and that’s just not true. Love is everywhere. It’s the road and you’re on it. It has peaks and valley and that’s what it is but I don’t know how people go through this because this is excruciating. I have to say.
Ellen: …I‘m just saying that no one really knows. If you think you know what’s happening, you don’t . Just like people have your own private lives and nobody knows what it’s really like when you’re at home with someone else…
Bethenny: But look, the truth is…I wanted to rip the Band-Aid off so it could start to heal. This will obviously be better. I’m scared of the unknown future. You know everything and one day you don’t know. So I’m scared. I’m older. And I want to be able to say to people…It’s about what I do now… I never thought I’d be a role model but I think to some people I am or have been. So this is an important time because it’s about what I do next. How I handle myself now with grace, with dignity. This is the time now that matters.
Ellen: And, you’re a very, very smart woman. You’re very strong woman. You’re going to have an outlet. You’re going to have a talk show and every single day you’re going to be able to explore these subjects with other women that are going through this because a lot women…you’re a business woman. A lot of you’re life has been business and you can help people say, what’s the balance? How do I do this? I am I successful? How do I handle my relationship? And, you’ll be able to talk about it everyday.
Bethenny: Yes, a lot of my life has been business. Since we did the show this summer…I’ve just been kind home being more of a stay at home Mom. A lot of people are saying that I chose business over love, which couldn’t be further from the truth. I don’t really do much and this (the magazines) has kind of made me say to myself, oh my gosh. Fame is a weird thing. Maybe I want to get off the ride but the talk show…coming here every day well, not here in New York . We’re going to do the show in New York because I want everything in New York because of my family. But doing the show every day. That’s what I’m supposed to do. And, talking to people and women everyday. Have these conversations that are difficult and that’s kind of why I’m here today… and that’s not what my show’s is going to be about either. I’m going to have bad days…Hopefully not that many bad days but the ones I do have I’ll go through that with the audience and vice versa. It’s going to be a journey and that’s going to get me through this too..
I do have sympathy for Bethenny. I can’t imagine going through a divorce in the public forum. At some point, though, it sort of goes with the territory. Your life is on display (“On display, on display!”), because you chose this life. You chose to live your life in the public arena. So in that sense, I don’t really want to hear it. Do what Demi did. Move to Idaho and stay there for a decade.
Just an idea.