Fellow talk show host, Bethenny Frankel makes an appearance on Ã¢â¬ÅThe Ellen DeGeneres ShowÃ¢â¬Â on Wednesday, January 9th. ÃÂ Bethenny opens up to Ellen about her divorce. Plus, Bethenny confirms her talk show will be taped in New York this Fall.
Bethenny on her divorceÃ¢â¬Â¦
Ellen: As I can see you are already getting emotional. You could of canceled easily.ÃÂ You were booked for this show and you could of easily cancelled. You said, no I want to be here and itÃ¢â¬â¢s hard for anyone going through a divorce but especially peopleÃ¢â¬Â¦ these are just some of the magazine (holds up a stack of magazines) that youÃ¢â¬â¢re on the cover of and thatÃ¢â¬â¢s got to hurt like hell to have to deal with thatÃ¢â¬Â¦
Bethenny: ItÃ¢â¬â¢s difficult. Well, first of all, yeah. Do I want to be doing this exact thing right now? No, but I canÃ¢â¬â¢t just only be on reality TV and show everything when itÃ¢â¬â¢s fairy princess, fairytale and then not take my hits when I have to.ÃÂ IÃ¢â¬â¢ve kind of had the best worst year ever.ÃÂ So I have to you know, itÃ¢â¬â¢s the highs and the lows.ÃÂ Does this especially bother me? (the magazines) No, but dealing with that plus personal stuff at the same time is very surreal thing.ÃÂ Just going through something personal you have so many different emotions and I feel like a bit of a disappointment to all of you.ÃÂ And, I feel like a failure.
Ellen: You are not a disappointment. You are not a failure.ÃÂ You are not.
Bethenny: Ã¢â¬Â¦I feel like a failure. I really put it out there. I wanted the fairytale. I thought I had it. And Bryn is my fairytale…I get lettersÃ¢â¬Â¦So many people have been so supportive and some people are judgmental and I really understand.ÃÂ But I also get letters from people saying, now I donÃ¢â¬â¢t believe in love and thatÃ¢â¬â¢s just not true. Love is everywhere.ÃÂ ItÃ¢â¬â¢s the road and youÃ¢â¬â¢re on it.ÃÂ It has peaks and valley and thatÃ¢â¬â¢s what it is but I donÃ¢â¬â¢t know how people go through this because this is excruciating. I have to say.
Ellen: Ã¢â¬Â¦IÃ¢â¬Ëm just saying that no one really knows. If you think you know whatÃ¢â¬â¢s happening, you donÃ¢â¬â¢t . Just like people have your own private lives and nobody knows what itÃ¢â¬â¢s really like when youÃ¢â¬â¢re at home with someone elseÃ¢â¬Â¦
Bethenny:ÃÂ But look, the truth isÃ¢â¬Â¦I wanted to rip the Band-Aid off so it could start to heal. This will obviously be better.ÃÂ IÃ¢â¬â¢m scared of the unknown future.ÃÂ You know everything and one day you donÃ¢â¬â¢t know.ÃÂ So IÃ¢â¬â¢m scared. IÃ¢â¬â¢m older. And I want to be able to say to peopleÃ¢â¬Â¦ItÃ¢â¬â¢s about what I do nowÃ¢â¬Â¦ I never thought IÃ¢â¬â¢d be a role model but I think to some people I am or have been.ÃÂ So this is an important time because itÃ¢â¬â¢s about what I do next. How I handle myself now with grace, with dignity. This is the time now that matters.
Ellen: And, youÃ¢â¬â¢re a very, very smart woman. YouÃ¢â¬â¢re very strong woman. YouÃ¢â¬â¢re going to have an outlet. YouÃ¢â¬â¢re going to have a talk show and every single day youÃ¢â¬â¢re going to be able to explore these subjects with other women that are going through this because a lot womenÃ¢â¬Â¦youÃ¢â¬â¢re a business woman.ÃÂ A lot of youÃ¢â¬â¢re life has been business and you can help people say, whatÃ¢â¬â¢s the balance?ÃÂ How do I do this?ÃÂ I am I successful? ÃÂ How do I handle my relationship? ÃÂ And, youÃ¢â¬â¢ll be able to talk about it everyday.
Bethenny: Yes, a lot of my life has been business. Since we did the show this summerÃ¢â¬Â¦IÃ¢â¬â¢ve just been kind home being more of a stay at home Mom. A lot of people are saying that I chose business over love, which couldnÃ¢â¬â¢t be further from the truth.ÃÂ I donÃ¢â¬â¢t really do much and this (the magazines) has kind of made me say to myself, oh my gosh.ÃÂ Fame is a weird thing. Maybe I want to get off the ride but the talk showÃ¢â¬Â¦coming here every day well, not here in New York . WeÃ¢â¬â¢re going to do the show in New York because I want everything in New York because of my family. But doing the show every day. ThatÃ¢â¬â¢s what IÃ¢â¬â¢m supposed to do.ÃÂ And, talking to people and women everyday. Have these conversations that are difficult and thatÃ¢â¬â¢s kind of why IÃ¢â¬â¢m here todayÃ¢â¬Â¦ and thatÃ¢â¬â¢s not what my showÃ¢â¬â¢s is going to be about either. IÃ¢â¬â¢m going to have bad daysÃ¢â¬Â¦Hopefully not that many bad days but the ones I do have IÃ¢â¬â¢ll go through that with the audience and vice versa. ItÃ¢â¬â¢s going to be a journey and thatÃ¢â¬â¢s going to get me through this too..
I do have sympathy for Bethenny. I can’t imagine going through a divorce in the public forum. At some point, though, it sort of goes with the territory. Your life is on display (“On display, on display!”), because you chose this life. You chose to live your life in the public arena. So in that sense, I don’t really want to hear it. Do what Demi did. Move to Idaho and stay there for a decade.
Just an idea.